Many of the people who have contacted us for information about hypnotherapy and how it can help them are looking for help with improving their self esteem.
The following course is a great tool for helping you to unlock your self esteem and build rock solid self confidence. The two are linked very closely as you will find out at:
We hope you enjoy and benefit from the information contained in this course.
Low self esteem and children
Throughout your child’s life you need to be on their side. It can be tough being a child in today’s society. Your child may have better living conditions, education and nourishment than many children several hundred years ago, but children are also exposed to many less obvious pressures today. Being part of a loving and supportive family may not be enough to protect today’s child. The good news is that healthy self esteem coupled with a strong set of values will provide a good foundation for you and your child.
By working on your own self esteem you can directly help your child because children will absorb good self esteem from parents in the same way that they will unerringly find mud and puddles to play in!
You can also help by trying to give as much unconditional acceptance as possible. By this I mean that you keep firm boundaries about not tolerating bad behaviour, but that the child knows that you are only criticising his behaviour and not the core of him.
It is quite normal for children to experience feelings of worthlessness and of being no good or not good enough. It is likely that this is nature’s way of hard-wiring the child with a sense of vulnerability for his own protection. If children felt too confident at an early age they might suffer a lot of accidents because they wouldn’t perceive rivers, traffic, strangers etc as being potentially dangerous.
To give unconditional acceptance the parent has to value himself or herself. In the on-line book Self Esteem Unlocked you will learn how to improve your own self esteem quickly and easily without spending thousands of pounds on therapy and years talking endlessly about the past in a therapist’s chair. Self Esteem Unlocked will unfold the key skills and secrets that will help you and your child enjoy rock solid self confidence as they grow up.
Notes
Learn to distinguish between behaviours e.g. courtesy, politeness, consideration towards others, these you want tp train the child to do, whereas accept the child may have core beliefs and interests that are dissimilar to your own. E.g. child may be gay; this may be beyond your comprehension but this is the core of the child.
Sort yourself out
You accept the core of the child whilst you may need to train the behaviour.
Don’t live through your child
Find things to praise, compliment your child about.
Teaching your child about choices; Jackie used to give them a small sum to spend at the local jumble sale so they could learn to judge quality and pleasure-giving potential of toys.
Take your child clothes shopping and try out colours and learn together which colours and styles look nice.
Self esteem and assertiveness
So many people these days want to improve their self esteem but don’t know where to start. Should they dig back into their childhood? Or should they try to forget about the past and keep repeating affirmations? Is it necessary to be in therapy for years in order to get yourself sorted out? Amongst all this confusion you will find my book Self Esteem Unlocked a plain and straightforward guide to developing your self esteem in steady easy steps. It is the fruit of forty years of studying self esteem and is written in plain and simple language.
From my experience of working with people from all walks of life, it is plain that people long for the contentment that comes from good self esteem; they just don’t know how to go about it.
Assertiveness and good self esteem go hand in hand together. If you show assertive behaviour in the way you relate to people this is usually a sign that your self esteem is in good shape. If however you find that you are often passive, depressed, fearful, cowed, easily manipulated and dominated, cringing, this may be an indication that your self esteem is low. Also if you are prone to uncontrolled anger, tend to dominate or bully people, have rigid body language you may also have low self esteem that you are trying to conceal by blustering and bullying behaviour.
Self Esteem Unlocked will take you by the hand and lead you through the steps you need to take to free yourself from your low self esteem. This golden guide will be by your side – not just for a few days – not just for a few months – not even for a few years – - but for life.
Notes
Assertiveness is a dirty word.
Depends if you or your family are passive, aggressive or assertive.
Different cultures, classes, gender determine acceptable levels of assertivenesss. If you are working your way up the ladder you will want to learn how to be confident with anyone from any background.
Michael Newton is famous for his spiritual regression techniques that take subjects back to their time in the spirit world. Here Newton reveals his step-by-step methods. His experiential approach to the spiritual realms sheds light on the age-old questions of who are we, where we came from, and why we are here.