Self esteem and clutter

Isn’t it a struggle to balance the need to acquire possessions and the desire to have just a few belongings and be as free as a bird?  As we all know, if you keep buying things over time and don’t make sure you throw things away regularly, then clutter starts to pile up.  Things that need mending get stored in cupboards, “spare” things build up but are never used, out-of-date things teeter on the brink of being thrown away for years……

In Self Esteem Unlocked you will learn how to cut through the muddle like a knife through butter.  Often physical clutter goes hand in hand with mental and emotional baggage and muddled thinking.

Why is it a big mistake to put things in the loft?   After my aunt and then my father passed away, I found I simply could not decide which things I should keep and which should be thrown away or given to the charity shop.  I had made so many decisions it was as if my decision-maker had worn out!   If you been in similar circumstance I expect you will know that feeling of not being able to see the wood for the trees.  Does this painting by an obscure painter have any value?  If I keep this book will I ever read it?  If I save all these old LP’s how much would they fetch in a sale?  Does this sound familiar?

In the end, exhaustion took over and the simplest thing was to shelve the decision making process and put stuff in the loft.  Big mistake!  Once it is up there it never seems to come down again, does it?  In the end it was only when I was moving that I had to finally address the problem – and, oh, the relief you feel when you clear out the old.  In Self Esteem Unlocked you will discover how to deal with mental and emotional clutter as well as physical clutter,  and how getting rid of mental and emotional garbage will open they way for a wealth of wonderful new energy and sparkle in your life.

Self esteem and assertiveness

So many people these days want to improve their self esteem but don’t know where to start.  Should they dig back into their childhood?  Or should they try to forget about the past and keep repeating affirmations?  Is it necessary to be in therapy for years in order to get yourself sorted out?  Amongst all this confusion you will find my course Self Esteem Unlocked a plain and straightforward guide to developing your self esteem in steady easy steps.  It is the fruit of forty years of studying self esteem and is written in plain and simple language.

From my experience of working with people from all walks of life, it is plain that people long for the contentment that comes from good self esteem; they just don’t know how to go about it.

Assertiveness and good self esteem go hand in hand together.  If you show assertive behaviour in the way you relate to people this is usually a sign that your self esteem is in good shape.  If however you find that you are often passive, depressed, fearful, cowed, easily manipulated and dominated, cringing, this may be an indication that your self esteem is low.  Also if you are prone to uncontrolled anger, tend to dominate or bully people, have rigid body language you may also have low self esteem that you are trying to conceal by blustering and bullying behaviour.

Self Esteem Unlocked will take you by the hand and lead you through the steps you need to take to free yourself from your low self esteem.  This golden guide will be by your side – not just for a few days – not just for a few months – not even for a few years – - but for life.

Notes

Assertiveness is a dirty word.

If you are working your way up the ladder you will want to learn how to be confident with anyone from any background.

Many of the people who have contacted us for information about hypnotherapy and how it can help them are looking for help with improving their self esteem.

The following course is a great tool for helping you to unlock your self esteem and build rock solid self confidence.  The two are linked very closely as you will find out at:

Self Esteem Unlocked

We hope you enjoy and benefit from the information contained in this course.

Low self esteem and children

Throughout your child’s life you need to be on their side.  It can be tough being a child in today’s society.  Your child may have better living conditions, education and nourishment than many children several hundred years ago, but children are also exposed to many less obvious pressures today.  Being part of a loving and supportive family may not be enough to protect today’s child.  The good news is that healthy self esteem coupled with a strong set of values will provide a good foundation for you and your child.

By working on your own self esteem you can directly help your child because children will absorb good self esteem from parents in the same way that they will unerringly find mud and puddles to play in!

You can also help by trying to give as much unconditional acceptance as possible.  By this I mean that you keep firm boundaries about not tolerating bad behaviour, but that the child knows that you are only criticising his behaviour and not the core of him.

It is quite normal for children to experience feelings of worthlessness and of being no good or not good enough.  It is likely that this is nature’s way of hard-wiring the child with a sense of vulnerability for his own protection.  If children felt too confident at an early age they might suffer a lot of accidents because they wouldn’t perceive rivers, traffic, strangers etc as being potentially dangerous.

To give unconditional acceptance the parent has to value himself or herself.   In the on-line book Self Esteem Unlocked you will learn how to improve your own self esteem quickly and easily without spending thousands of pounds on therapy and years talking endlessly about the past in a therapist’s chair.  Self Esteem Unlocked will unfold the key skills and secrets that will help you and your child enjoy rock solid self confidence as they grow up.

Notes

Learn to distinguish between behaviours e.g. courtesy, politeness, consideration towards others, these you want tp train the child to do, whereas accept the child may have core beliefs and interests that are dissimilar to your own.  E.g. child may be gay; this may be beyond your comprehension but this is the core of the child.

Sort yourself out

You accept the core of the child whilst you may need to train the behaviour.

Don’t live through your child

Find things to praise, compliment your child about.

Teaching your child about choices; Jackie used to give them a small sum to spend at the local jumble sale so they could learn to judge quality and pleasure-giving potential of toys.

Take your child clothes shopping and try out colours and learn together which colours and styles look nice.

Self esteem and assertiveness

So many people these days want to improve their self esteem but don’t know where to start.  Should they dig back into their childhood?  Or should they try to forget about the past and keep repeating affirmations?  Is it necessary to be in therapy for years in order to get yourself sorted out?  Amongst all this confusion you will find my book Self Esteem Unlocked a plain and straightforward guide to developing your self esteem in steady easy steps.  It is the fruit of forty years of studying self esteem and is written in plain and simple language.

From my experience of working with people from all walks of life, it is plain that people long for the contentment that comes from good self esteem; they just don’t know how to go about it.

Assertiveness and good self esteem go hand in hand together.  If you show assertive behaviour in the way you relate to people this is usually a sign that your self esteem is in good shape.  If however you find that you are often passive, depressed, fearful, cowed, easily manipulated and dominated, cringing, this may be an indication that your self esteem is low.  Also if you are prone to uncontrolled anger, tend to dominate or bully people, have rigid body language you may also have low self esteem that you are trying to conceal by blustering and bullying behaviour.

Self Esteem Unlocked will take you by the hand and lead you through the steps you need to take to free yourself from your low self esteem.  This golden guide will be by your side – not just for a few days – not just for a few months – not even for a few years – - but for life.

Notes

Assertiveness is a dirty word.

Depends if you or your family are passive, aggressive or assertive.

Different cultures, classes, gender determine acceptable levels of assertivenesss.  If you are working your way up the ladder you will want to learn how to be confident with anyone from any background.

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Since my course Self Esteem Unlocked came out a lot of you have written asking whether this course will help with anxiety problems.

Some of you have described how you seem to worry all the time; others experience a general non-specific anxiety that doesn’t seem to be related to anything in particular and some find anxiety is triggered by specific places, situations, people or events.   Other emails describe how you imagine things turning out a lot worse than is actually the case: you are like Stephen Spielberg – you are good at creating suspense movies, it’s just that these are ones you make up in your own head and they wind you up something terrible!

Or perhaps you worry because you are faced with a problem and you do not come to a decision:  you are addressing a difficulty unproductively.   Every day a certain number of decisions have to be made.  Shall I buy that second hand car or stick with the current one for another year?  Shall I do the filing?  Shall I do the washing today; if I don’t do it today will I run out of clean things to wear?  You have all heard of the research that indicates that people in offices often pick up and put down a piece of paper on their desk about 10 times a day without ever doing anything about it.  People who pick over decisions without actually deciding anything are doing much the same thing; if you keep putting off decisions great and small you may often simply end up creating a “worry habit.”

Another great cause of worry is the effect other people have on you.  At work someone tells you they are going to reshuffle the jobs and make some people redundant; this may or may not be true but already you feel anxiety gnawing in the pit of your stomach.  Improving your self esteem helps you strengthen your personal boundaries so that people cannot easily wind you up or push you around.  Accept that we are all in the business of influencing one another: it is a fact of life.  However, your self esteem needs to be strong enough so that you can decide how much you are influenced and affected by the things others say and do.

Improving your self-esteem means that you really do stand on your own two feet and you are a secure and self confident person.  Self Esteem Unlocked shows you how to recognise, understand and solve various forms of anxiety so that you become a secure and self confident person who handles whatever happens to you in life with ease.