Since my course Self Esteem Unlocked came out a lot of you have written asking whether this course will help with anxiety problems.
Some of you have described how you seem to worry all the time; others experience a general non-specific anxiety that doesn’t seem to be related to anything in particular and some find anxiety is triggered by specific places, situations, people or events. Other emails describe how you imagine things turning out a lot worse than is actually the case: you are like Stephen Spielberg – you are good at creating suspense movies, it’s just that these are ones you make up in your own head and they wind you up something terrible!
Or perhaps you worry because you are faced with a problem and you do not come to a decision: you are addressing a difficulty unproductively. Every day a certain number of decisions have to be made. Shall I buy that second hand car or stick with the current one for another year? Shall I do the filing? Shall I do the washing today; if I don’t do it today will I run out of clean things to wear? You have all heard of the research that indicates that people in offices often pick up and put down a piece of paper on their desk about 10 times a day without ever doing anything about it. People who pick over decisions without actually deciding anything are doing much the same thing; if you keep putting off decisions great and small you may often simply end up creating a “worry habit.”
Another great cause of worry is the effect other people have on you. At work someone tells you they are going to reshuffle the jobs and make some people redundant; this may or may not be true but already you feel anxiety gnawing in the pit of your stomach. Improving your self esteem helps you strengthen your personal boundaries so that people cannot easily wind you up or push you around. Accept that we are all in the business of influencing one another: it is a fact of life. However, your self esteem needs to be strong enough so that you can decide how much you are influenced and affected by the things others say and do.
Improving your self-esteem means that you really do stand on your own two feet and you are a secure and self confident person. Self Esteem Unlocked shows you how to recognise, understand and solve various forms of anxiety so that you become a secure and self confident person who handles whatever happens to you in life with ease.